Why is it so hard to love your partner with ADHD?- Difficulties in Giving and Receiving love.

Difficulties in Giving Love:Lack of the capacity or skills.Shame monster prevents it.Perfectionism.Difficulties in Receiving Love:Low Self-esteem related to ADHD.Disconnected from bodily sensations and feelings related to receiving love, care, admiration, etc.Cannot receive passively, can only actively take.Lack of self-definition, cannot identify and express thoughts, feelings, needs, and desires.