ADHD in Relationships

ignored and lonely when your partner seems distracted while you are talking. You might interpret that as they do not care or are not interested in what you have to say.

irritated and frustrated that your partner never seems to follow up on what they promise to do.

like a parent to your partner. You nag and start to loathe yourself for being that nagging partner.  

resentful that you cannot rely on your partner and you feel alone in the relationship.

helpless and hopeless. You feel burdened by your partner's ADHD symptoms and you are judging yourself when you cannot help but show your discontent.

Listening attentively to your partner and paying consistent attention to them; You often feel overwhelmed when your partner initiates conversations;

Organizing tasks, managing time, and completing responsibilities; You feel inadequate and guilty about not sharing more household obligations while your partner complains;

Being immobilized by your shame around impulsive decision-making and reckless behaviors, like impulsive shopping; 

Regulating your emotions; You know your mood swings often ruin your time together but you cannot help with it.

Taking on an equal share of household chores, childcare, and other responsibilities in your relationship; You are overwhelmed by your own obligations like work and self-care that you have no bandwidth for more.

Following through on commitments, whether it's completing tasks, keeping promises, or fulfilling obligations. You feel helpless as you are trying your best but it never seems enough for your partner. You start to think that you are not enough for your partner.