Fighting Styles

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but the way couples fight often follows predictable patterns.
In this video, I explore seven common fighting styles, shaped by partners’ attachment styles, nervous system responses, and self-regulation skills. From the pursuer–distancer cycle to escalating mirror fights, these patterns reveal how our histories and biology influence conflict.

The goal is not to avoid fighting, but to understand the deeper dynamics at play—so couples can move from destructive cycles toward collaborative, healthy conflict and genuine repair.